The signs a loved one is ready for an aged care home
It is very rare for an ageing parent to put their hand up and ask for help.
The likely reality is that the decision to move mum or dad into an aged care home generally comes after a sudden event that forces the family into action. Often this causes considerable stress for both the older person and the family as they try to navigate the system.
The best time to start the conversation about aged care is while your parents are still healthy and happy at home. Honest discussions can help to avoid a lot of emotional pain and upset between parents and children about what the future may hold.
When broaching the subject of aged care, it’s important to understand their parents’ wishes. At the same time, talk about the reality of ill health and physical changes that might mean aged care is something that they may have to consider at some stage.
A friend’s 76-year-old father had a serious fall that caused a hurried search for an aged care home.
“We were caught on the hop a bit,” he said. “While the fact dad was getting older was starting to trouble me somewhat, I just didn’t have the mental space to give it much attention.”
That is, until his dad tumbled down an escalator at a shopping mall.
My family and I were just in panic mode, talking about who could look after dad, searching for nurses, asking everyone what we should do. I wish we’d had a plan in place ahead of all the drama – we wasted a lot of time investigating options we could never have followed through on.
Understand the steps for moving a loved one into an aged care home in our video here.